Stoner Sex: Stamina, The G-Spot, Infidelity & Special Birthday Gifts

Dear Hyapatia,
My girlfriend is really hot and very sexual. We get stoned and one thing leads to another. She likes to have sex at all times during the day and night and just about anywhere you can think of. I’m very excited by her. I couldn't ask for a more sexual lover. I don't ever want to disappoint her, but sometimes it's difficult to keep up. Is there anything you could suggest that could help me? – Jim

Dear Jim,
There are several herbs that have been used for centuries to increase male stamina. Ginseng is very popular and probably the most well known, but there’s also Muira Puama, Catuaba, Damiana and Lycium. Sometimes it’s just a matter of a little more energy. In that case, coffee or tea might help or some ginkgo. A balanced diet with lots of fruits, vegetables and protein can’t be stressed enough. There’s nothing like getting your vitamins from a source that is as close to the earth as possible. The more processed a food is, the more vitamins and minerals have been leached out of it. Your testosterone is naturally higher in the morning, so sex in the morning may be the best time of day for you.

Dear Hyapatia,
I’m very happy in my relationship. My lady is very good to me, so it’s only natural that I’d want to give her anything I can. She always surprises me with gifts of weed – and she can get some great smoke!  She wants to come from the G-spot. I know it is supposed to be a couple of inches inside, but that’s just about all I know. In order to help her orgasm that way, I don't know what to do to help her. Any pointers? – Chad

Dear Chad,
The G-spot is two inches in and on the side of her vagina that is just behind her belly. If your penis curves at all, and most men’s do, a sexual position that uses that curve to reach the G-spot will help you. If not, no worries. Having her on top of you is usually a great position. If that doesn't do the trick, have her turn around and face your feet while still on top of you (reverse cowgirl position). If that still doesn't work, try standing up from behind. If that still doesn't do it, try other positions and keep trying. You can never go wrong by starting with a good, warm bath, followed by a slow massage and then finally easing into sex. The more relaxed she is, the more likely she is to orgasm. 

Dear Hyapatia,
I'm a normal girl, nothing glamorous or fancy. I grow weed with my boyfriend and I’m not the type who’s afraid to get her hands dirty. I don't ask for much, just a loyal, honest man who treats me right. That's why it really blew my mind when I found out that my guy had cheated on me with a really hot sex kitten. She’s a 10 and I'm just a country girl who never wears makeup. I'm not going to change for him; I wouldn't be comfortable like that. Should I just tell him I know and kick him out of my world? Or should I act like I don't know and see what happens? – Emily

Dear Emily,
No one deserves to be cheated on. It doesn't matter whether you're the type who wears heavy makeup and high heels or not. He needs to know that you’re aware of what he’s done. He can't play you for a fool. Get high with him and let him talk. See what he has to say for himself. If this was just a one-time indiscretion and he has true remorse, perhaps the relationship can be saved. If he doesn't convince you that he can be trusted in the future, then you have to think about yourself. He could bring something to your relationship you don't want – like a disease. AIDS, herpes and other diseases can cause pelvic inflammatory disease that cause infertility that last forever! He’s not worth that. No one is.

Dear Hyapatia,
My boyfriend wants to try anal sex. He’s been really cool about it. He doesn't pressure me or anything. In fact, he rarely brings it up. But I know it’s his fantasy. Well, his birthday is coming up and he’s been extra nice to me, so I want to do something extra nice for him. So I bought him an ounce of some primo smoke and thought I’d do this for him. How can I do this without hurting myself? – Clarice

Dear Clarice,
Find a good sex shop and purchase a few things: first, a small dildo that will prepare you for your boyfriend and, second, some good lubricant. Before you have sex with your boyfriend, use the dildo and lubricant to stretch yourself a bit in preparation. It can be painful if you’re not ready and he needs to be gentle and go slowly. Your boyfriend could be the most patient and gentle lover ever, but if he’s of normal size and you are, too, it still may hurt a bit. By going through this preparation, you’ll make it easier for you both. Control the dildo and proceed slowly. You may find that it’s not painful at all. Then you’ll be ready for your boyfriend and it will be nothing but fun.


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